Tips For Taking Charge of Your Life

girl-2573111_640Problems, adversity, and frustrations can sometimes (but not always) be “blessings in disguise.” Frustrations, mistakes, defeats, and setbacks can inspire you to mentally step back, reassess your situation, regroup, and devise a plan to make positive improvements and changes in your life.

Here are two things that I believe everyone needs to remind themselves of every day — if not every minute:

  • Personal responsibility: “I am responsible for the direction of my life,  the choices I make, the thoughts I think, the actions I take, the words I speak, and the path on which I walk in life. The future condition and quality of my life rests firmly on my shoulders and I’m not going to relinquish that control to anyone else. I’m also not going to waste time, energy, and opportunities by blaming someone else for my frustrations or problems.”
  • Continual forks in the road: Every moment in your life in a crossroads — an opportunity to change your direction, make new and different decisions, solve problems, break through barriers, and discover opportunities. As Deepak Chopra states in his book The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success, “You and I are essentially infinite choice-makers. In every moment of our existence, we are in that field of all possibilities where we have access to an infinity of choices.”


Another philosophy that I find inspiring is that of Dr. Wayne Dyer (1940-2015), author of life-changing books like Your Erroneous Zones, The Power of Intention, You’ll See it When You Believe It, Your Sacred Self, and dozens of others.

One of his inspirational quotes that I frequently reflect on is “You don’t get what you want, you get what your are!”

What does that mean?

Well, here’s my interpretation of those wise words:

  • You get out of life what you put into it.
  • Our happiness, success, and the impact we have on the world is the result of the thoughts we cultivate, the personal values we live by, and the habits we develop. As creatures of habit, our individual and cumulative habits are what determine or destiny and shape our reality.
  • Our outer world is a reflection of our inner world — our “inner world” meaning our thoughts, feelings, beliefs, mental images, thought patterns, and the way we communicate with ourselves (both silently and out loud).

So in order to take charge of our lives and not allow external forces and influences to dictate the the content and quality of our lives, we need to be the “master of our fates and captains of our soul.”

In the poem Invictus, English poet William Ernest Henley (1849–1903) wrote those memorable words in the form of a powerful affirmation:

“I am the master of my fate; I am the captain of my soul.”

Not a bad mantra to remember and repeat to yourself several times a day, every day!

I hope you’ve found this blog post to be both inspiring and thought-provoking.

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Peace and best wishes!




Life Changing Quotes

One way I come up with topics for this blog is by researching what people are searching  on the Web. That’s a technique I use to tailor my blog posts to what Internet users are interested in and want to know about.

Since this is a blog about life, my research often centers on phrases and themes related to that immense topic.

Today, I stumbled upon the fact that a lot of people are specifically searching for “life changing quotes.” That captured my attention because I am always looking for life changes ideas and philosophies, myself, but it never occurred to me to search for life changing quotes.

I find it fascinating that certain words and combinations of words can motivate, inspire, and embolden us to overcome our fears, take action, and realize more of our human potential.

Although the same words, ideas, and quotes don’t inspire everyone to the same degree, I’d like to pass along a few good quotes that I reflect on whenever I need to boost my self esteem or motivate myself to take action.

One of the more life-changing books I’ve read in the past decade or so was written by Debbie Ford. It’s called “The Right Questions: Ten Essential Questions to Guide You to an Extraordinary Life.” Although it’s a relatively short book, an easy read, it contains a wealth of wisdom, inspiring ideas, and — in my opinion — life-changing quotes. Here are a couple that are especially meaningful to me:

“Each of us has an internal flame that is the keeper of our life force. Each choice we make either adds to this force, making it stronger, igniting and feeding our flame, or diminishes the force, dampening our internal flame, reducing its power.”

In the book, she also provides readers with this “wake-up call”…

“This is not a dress rehearsal; this is your life. Either you will milk it for all it’s worth and manifest what you truly desire or you will go to your grave regretting that you didn’t make different choices.”

That reminds me of a powerful line in a song by Billy Joel: Vienna

“And you know that when the truth is told
That you can get what you want or you can just get old.”

It’s a harsh truth, but it drives home an important message about taking action and not putting off for tomorrow what we can (and often should) do today.

Speaking of compelling questions and life-changing quotes, one that has been repeated and repackaged for years, challenges you to imagine what success would feel like. The following question is a consolidation of a couple variations of the quote:

What would you do, right now, and what goals would you set if you knew you could not fail?

The original version is attributed to Robert H. Schuller, the host of the TV program “Hour of Power” and author of the 1973 book “You Can Become the Person You Want To Be”. The essence of that question also appeared a few years later in his syndicated newspaper column.

The reason I love that quote, as well as the many variations others have used, is that it inspires you to imagine for a few seconds what it would be like to succeed and get what you want. Once you’ve entertained that possibility in your mind for even a fleeting moment, you can’t help but feel at least a little more confident, motivated, and inspired to take action, pursue your dreams, and go after your goals!

Those are just a few examples of what I consider to be life-changing quotes. As I discover and remember more, I’ll pass them along in future blog posts!

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